tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6833607.post8711350168561588646..comments2023-06-14T03:36:55.988-07:00Comments on Head Nurse: I finally got the hog skull clean and got another Cancer Buddy.Johttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16520599099436383317noreply@blogger.comBlogger12125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6833607.post-77551599310628546652014-10-09T14:21:46.618-07:002014-10-09T14:21:46.618-07:00I like pity parties, I'm Irish, I like any par...I like pity parties, I'm Irish, I like any party. Oh and once I had a tshirt that said- "Life's uncertain, eat dessert first!" I wish I hadn't outgrown that shirt...Elainehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03454322780657998569noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6833607.post-48058277932039241712014-08-25T08:52:39.529-07:002014-08-25T08:52:39.529-07:00I am a firm believer in flipping the fuck out...js...I am a firm believer in flipping the fuck out...jsAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6833607.post-62608566184677221062014-07-23T12:23:46.015-07:002014-07-23T12:23:46.015-07:00Yes, as Nurse Dee says, life doesn't come with...Yes, as Nurse Dee says, life doesn't come with a handbook.<br /><br />So asking for a heaping STFU is a pretty darned good intervention IMNSHO.<br /><br />(Never been diagnosed, but with my family history, the numbers say I have a really good chance.)<br /><br />Kudos to you all. Bravery isn't shutting up or putting up, some days, it's just getting up.<br /><br />I salute you!RehabRNhttp://rehabrn.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6833607.post-15011271323327363142014-07-22T14:06:51.453-07:002014-07-22T14:06:51.453-07:00I agree that being told to suck it up and deal is ...I agree that being told to suck it up and deal is not helpful (ditto anything about 'God's plan'). Even less helpful is being told how something you did wrong (that the other person is doing right) caused your cancer. I do not think lack of exercise caused, or that copying my friend's exercise program could prevent, my breast cancer, or the kidney cancer that preceded it. <br /><br />What really helps in dealing with it is 'tincture of time' - just enough days passing so that you realize you're thinking less and less about your diagnosis and more and more about where you want to go on vacation this year.<br /><br />PS I so enjoy your blog posts and wish you had band width to write them more often.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6833607.post-80350726523090206752014-07-21T14:40:38.113-07:002014-07-21T14:40:38.113-07:00It's difficult when historically it's been...It's difficult when historically it's been me as an RN telling people "it's ok to feel the way you are feeling"...Your words meant the world to me and helped me to accept my emotional reaction as normal and ok. Thank you. Cartoon Charactershttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07871661908222892370noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6833607.post-977319548168669072014-07-19T00:51:33.986-07:002014-07-19T00:51:33.986-07:00I think getting a diagnosis of cancer is like deat...I think getting a diagnosis of cancer is like death - you grieve and go through the stages of grief... and I think those around you do as well.<br /><br />Problem is is that there's no handbook out there to really help one with the feelings - everyone feels differently than another. <br /><br />Getting the diagnosis and handling the diagnosis are two very different things. I think that unless you've had cancer, one should shut the hell up about how one should feel because they've never been in those shoes before and have no idea what they're talking about - it's one thing to sympathize with someone, it's another to empathize. Same as a mom losing their child, having to have an abortion, having a miscarriage.... it's the same sort of thing, just a different pile. <br /><br />I agree with you - I think losing your shit can be very therapeutic. I think a person should have a pity party - cancer is a pitiable thing - it's not like it's something that somone "wants" - it's a terrible diagnosis and something that once you have it, you will ALWAYS have to face. I give props to you and others who have to face the cancer mirror because it's not easy to overcome.Nurse Deehttp://practicalnursetorn.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6833607.post-34607676250173273182014-07-18T08:57:36.262-07:002014-07-18T08:57:36.262-07:00Yes!!! Surely if there is one time we should be al...Yes!!! Surely if there is one time we should be allowed to do whatever we think we need to do, it's when we are wrestling with a cancer diagnosis. Those dark moments are, sometimes very, very dark, and we all have our own ways of trying to conquer them. Definitely not the time to tell us we need to cheer up and deal with it. Actually, I think that happens because the "sympathizer" doesn't know how to deal with the dark side either, and would be much more comfortable if the patient could only be brave.<br /><br />-lurker with a history of brain cancerAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6833607.post-79516865367573471262014-07-18T06:44:03.549-07:002014-07-18T06:44:03.549-07:00Some days you want to wallow in it; some days you ...Some days you want to wallow in it; some days you don't. <br />--Queen Anne's LaceAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6833607.post-28274164297193260802014-07-17T15:09:27.384-07:002014-07-17T15:09:27.384-07:00Totally agree - better out with those emotions tha...Totally agree - better out with those emotions than keeping them all in. No need to feel shame - screw shame. Feel what needs to be felt. ~CatherineFacing Cancerhttp://www.facingcancer.canoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6833607.post-29368723718791580802014-07-17T11:04:08.374-07:002014-07-17T11:04:08.374-07:00You feel what you feel, and that feeling is right ...You feel what you feel, and that feeling is right for you. Be brave if that's what you feel. Have a pity party if that's what you feel. Feel perfectly normal and healthy and happy if that's what you feel. And anyone who tells you different, well, that's that person's feelings and that person should keep quiet about them around you! And around me, too.messymimihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10649529601786689712noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6833607.post-2439082492123957472014-07-17T06:49:27.218-07:002014-07-17T06:49:27.218-07:00I'm so happy you said it's ok to have a pi...I'm so happy you said it's ok to have a pity party when you have cancer - i felt down on myself after I had a mastectomy for breast cancer and sunk into a funk about how I looked when everryone thought I was blessed to be cured of cancer. All I saw was this crater in my chest. Thanks for validating how I felt, i'm ok now, 6 years out, and I had a reconstruction (which by the way is great but reconstructions don't actually have any sensation so it ksn't exactly the same). The dread part with each subsequent exam does get better though.Kayehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14689395401269847602noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6833607.post-51972062604908585642014-07-16T19:07:09.374-07:002014-07-16T19:07:09.374-07:00Here's another funny about having the right at...Here's another funny about having the right attitude. I hope you enjoy it.<br /><br />http://xkcd.com/828/<br /><br />JuliaAnonymousnoreply@blogger.com