tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6833607.post8101388850523874977..comments2023-06-14T03:36:55.988-07:00Comments on Head Nurse: Question From A Young Nurse: But What About The Feelings?Johttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16520599099436383317noreply@blogger.comBlogger23125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6833607.post-15500567062958452782012-02-06T20:13:09.960-08:002012-02-06T20:13:09.960-08:00Great post! Not only new nurses get bullied. My re...Great post! Not only new nurses get bullied. My reply when being bullied is Thank you for letting me know/your advice/etc. Walk away. If your pts are breathing at the end of the shift, you done good. When you are in charge give the bully the pt with explosive diarrhea.<br />If you are nice to the orientee and give her a great experience AND your department hires her, she will always be there for you - to help you change the pt with explosive diarrhea.Linda Carole Bloomhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15460424645463700832noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6833607.post-89924710527712104282012-01-22T06:50:49.583-08:002012-01-22T06:50:49.583-08:00As a nurse who just hit her 6 month mark, I couldn...As a nurse who just hit her 6 month mark, I couldn't agree with you more! CONFIDENCE! All young nurses need to have it. Also, couple that with a smile and the bullies will slowly disappear. Kill 'em with kindness. <br /><br />Now if only I could stop the patients from acting like jerks, I'd be perfect.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6833607.post-15081354769879001112012-01-20T21:03:22.813-08:002012-01-20T21:03:22.813-08:00Nurses are a special breed of people. You have to...Nurses are a special breed of people. You have to have a passion to be a nurse.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6833607.post-1069783960382890022012-01-20T09:26:15.305-08:002012-01-20T09:26:15.305-08:00It's hard being the newbie in scrubs, but you ...It's hard being the newbie in scrubs, but you gave the perfect advice. Good luck!!!Scrubs - Tara Harkinshttp://medicalscrubsoutlet.com/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6833607.post-8877292121456536342012-01-06T11:53:18.217-08:002012-01-06T11:53:18.217-08:00Note cards - brilliant! I am so doing this at cli...Note cards - brilliant! I am so doing this at clinicals this term. Thank you!disorderlycnahttp://disorderlycna.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6833607.post-72831059364967628732012-01-04T06:24:26.814-08:002012-01-04T06:24:26.814-08:00I love that you just lay it out and don't beat...I love that you just lay it out and don't beat around the bush. I think this can apply to all working careers and not just nurses. Any time you go into a new job people always think they are better and will call you out on the things you do wrong..I personally always shrug it off and just keep trying to learn. Most of the people that want to critic you are the same ones that won't take time to teach you the right way.Brooke @ United Anesthesiahttp://www.unitedanesthesia.com/crna/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6833607.post-27088281564336596022011-12-25T21:16:20.274-08:002011-12-25T21:16:20.274-08:00I officially invite to come work with me. I will p...I officially invite to come work with me. I will precept you and protect you from "situations" and the sort of people who create these.<br /><br />Really. We'll have fun.shrimplatehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08347542266047278227noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6833607.post-44580414894248048772011-12-24T20:05:25.900-08:002011-12-24T20:05:25.900-08:00Awesome post, not just for nursing, but for annoyi...Awesome post, not just for nursing, but for annoying coworkers in general :)Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15212690454989568626noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6833607.post-62767523892810312322011-12-23T08:03:40.768-08:002011-12-23T08:03:40.768-08:00Ah, the term you are searching for is...bullying. ...Ah, the term you are searching for is...bullying. Yes, that doctor and that nurse are bullys. They may not steal your lunch money but they're trying to make you feel small and helpless and cringe-y (is that a word, but you get what I mean). When you realize that's what's up with this interaction you gain a little control. The notecards are a good touch, though. It distances you from their personal attack and might actually work....sometimes. As long as you keep in mind what is really going on in this interaction.joynoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6833607.post-2633341082656616012011-12-22T18:28:09.360-08:002011-12-22T18:28:09.360-08:00Great post! Stop the vicious cycle of "pickle...Great post! Stop the vicious cycle of "picklefaces" in healthcare. Seen this happen before in my CCU - I didn't think we'd ever see the light without cleaning house and starting all over again. Sad.<br /><br />Stay positive:)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6833607.post-12445258800084571722011-12-22T16:58:25.142-08:002011-12-22T16:58:25.142-08:00jo:
I don't visit the Rage door anymore. I...jo:<br /><br />I don't visit the Rage door anymore. I've taken up aerobic kickboxing.<br /><br />Nothing like imagining that idiots head right in the way of your foot as you kick.<br /><br />Just don't fall and break your arm while drunk like the Slug did. Unless, of course, you need a great excuse to miss work for a couple of months.RehabRNhttp://rehabrn.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6833607.post-85396449875622240982011-12-22T00:47:36.683-08:002011-12-22T00:47:36.683-08:00For those poor Young Nurses............ (who, desp...For those poor Young Nurses............ (who, despite very HONESTLY doing the best they can do, either *already* think less of themselves; OR are *starting* to think less of themselves)............ Nurse Jo's advice here is maybe, i.e., from my Retired RN's perspective............ the most useful, *R.E.A.L.*-LIFE advice you'll ever get, you know!!<br /><br />Experienced nurses all know that there are *nice* ways to help a Young Nurse learn how to give good Patient Care; and then............ (bearing the same-exact Good Nursing Practice information)............ there are also very *insensitive* ways to convey that same-exact information to a Young Nurse, too. After EVERY SINGLE mean, snobby, snotty, snickering, coldhearted, condescending, authoritarian, and/or totally NON-empathetic comment or rebuke that a Young Nurse might receive from "certain" older, more experienced nurses, or from "certain" doctors, a Young Nurse can just *V.O.W.*~~(facetiously in blood, haha!!)~~to "NEVER--EVER--NEVER BE LIKE THAT"............ i.e., when *you're* then an older, more experienced nurse *yourself* (on-your-Floor/in-your-Unit)!! <br /><br />VOW~~to yourself!!~~to *S.O.M.E.D.A.Y.* be that older, more experienced nurse, (who just might also be a little bit heavier, with graying hair underneath your hair color!!)............ who has genuinely *Kind, Understanding Eyes*............ and who has *A Heart That Can Remember*----(i.e., like Auntie Jo's heart can remember)----the uncalled-for workplace hurts that she herself felt as a Young Nurse, too. <br /><br />Someday, just~~(very-DETERMINEDLY!!)~~*B.E.* that older, more experienced nurse about whom Younger Nurses will say, "Even though she/he's OLD and has been here for a REALLY long time, we know that we can always go to HER/HIM with our questions or problems because *S.H.E.*/*H.E.*............ won't bite our heads off!!" (Haha!!)Rosannahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17290435002631069643noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6833607.post-14339043639539433682011-12-21T21:24:11.464-08:002011-12-21T21:24:11.464-08:00As an OR nurse, one of the first things I was told...As an OR nurse, one of the first things I was told is that there will be yelling in some cases. Sometimes the yelling is directed at you, the nurse, but really it is just the surgeon venting his/her anger at the CASE and not you personally. <br /><br />YOU CAN NEVER TAKE IT PERSONALLY.<br /><br />If it is something you did wrong, or didn't know, simply tell the doc/nurse, "Okay, now I know and I will not do it/ask again." <br /><br />Show them you acknowledge the situation as a learning opporunity, that you learned what you needed to, and that you will show this learned knowledge again in the future.<br /><br />Sometimes docs/older nurses forget that they were young and inexperienced once, too even though they act like they came out of the womb knowing how to do everything. Brush it off and just go on your way.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6833607.post-77239828642251466172011-12-21T20:28:27.550-08:002011-12-21T20:28:27.550-08:00Sadly, as an experienced nurse, I see this stuff h...Sadly, as an experienced nurse, I see this stuff happen way too much and not just with new nurses. Why do nurses eat their young (and their not so young)?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6833607.post-18620385504555923512011-12-21T12:27:14.793-08:002011-12-21T12:27:14.793-08:00Good taste. Talisker has been at the top of my sco...Good taste. Talisker has been at the top of my scotch list since long before I started nursing school. :)Brianhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16076856042658008396noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6833607.post-23407970347382325092011-12-21T06:35:28.133-08:002011-12-21T06:35:28.133-08:00Thank you, thank you, thank you. I'm not a nur...Thank you, thank you, thank you. I'm not a nurse (and I'm VERY thankful that there are people like you who are willing to take on that kind of responsibility), but this is exactly what I needed to hear. Recently the need to bitch-slap or introduce lazy-ass coworkers to the training bat have been coming more and more frequently, and the frustration/rage is becoming more difficult to manage internally each time. I'm going to try your advice because I'm rapidly running out of non-violent options...and I'd really like to stay employed.snarkygurlhttp://dorkchocolate.netnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6833607.post-35326389610920158482011-12-21T05:29:41.612-08:002011-12-21T05:29:41.612-08:00And remember how their comments made you feel,so y...And remember how their comments made you feel,so you don't do the same to some other new nurse down the line.JA-RNnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6833607.post-88489331673685912772011-12-21T05:22:49.331-08:002011-12-21T05:22:49.331-08:00Another thank you. Two and half years out from gra...Another thank you. Two and half years out from graduation and still unemployed (with the exception of a couple of seasonal gigs), I've met the breed of nurse described by the young nurse; unfortunately some of these were instructors in my nursing program. I hope someday to actually work as a nurse and to be in a position to mentor a young nurse.Olionoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6833607.post-17558660932577235422011-12-21T04:53:10.624-08:002011-12-21T04:53:10.624-08:00Thanks for this blog. Its right on the nose. I'...Thanks for this blog. Its right on the nose. I'm headed into work and bound to see one of those "asshole" doctors today so even though I may not be prepared for the stupid question he asks and already knows the answer to... I won't hug him so tight he can't breathe today! ThanksThe Keyes Familyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05657125564500141543noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6833607.post-40141690922641353862011-12-20T22:05:44.332-08:002011-12-20T22:05:44.332-08:00Thank you sooo much for this entry. I am in nursin...Thank you sooo much for this entry. I am in nursing school and have really been wondering how I am going to deal with the authoritarian complex that some doctors and nurses seem to air in front of students and "baby nurses". It pisses me off, but i suppose all in due time i will be through that stage of everyone nitpicking at me...since eventually I'll know better! I'm just afraid one day I'll bitch-slap someone in the meantime! Ah!Valhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06540124056834311909noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6833607.post-22741045300878714392011-12-20T20:32:52.705-08:002011-12-20T20:32:52.705-08:00From another long-time nurse ~ ditto what Auntie J...From another long-time nurse ~ ditto what Auntie Jo says...<br /><br />DON'T TAKE IT PERSONALLY!!!<br /><br />Go home, and practice extreme self care...bobbiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14353836074794786357noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6833607.post-68918241432106912822011-12-20T19:45:45.228-08:002011-12-20T19:45:45.228-08:00Great post. I just graduated with my BSN, waiting ...Great post. I just graduated with my BSN, waiting to take my NCLEX. I have had experiences with my preceptor in clinical that had an attitude and was sort of cold-hearted. Your advice is SPOT ON. Thank you so much.Avalonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12364474487290080266noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6833607.post-73568809056375884732011-12-20T19:43:16.406-08:002011-12-20T19:43:16.406-08:00"If all else fails, Talisker. It's a good..."If all else fails, Talisker. It's a good Scotch for beginners."<br /><br />Perfect, Head Nurse. Iiii LOVE it!<br /><br />Come to think of it, there are a few nurses walking about with quite high self-opinions in partial result of compliments I gave out, in just the way you suggest. <br /><br />They came to see me as the kind of nurse who, although not as swift and astute as they, could at least appreciate perfection in my betters. After many wagon loads of that horse dung, they let me alone. Which was nice because you know thumbscrews are never available when you need them.<br />NPNurse Philosopherhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07893551206360331031noreply@blogger.com