tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6833607.post113233343649930256..comments2023-06-14T03:36:55.988-07:00Comments on Head Nurse: Just because you can doesn't mean you should, part IIJohttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16520599099436383317noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6833607.post-10315530028400521922016-05-13T14:16:37.558-07:002016-05-13T14:16:37.558-07:00I know we're almost 11 years past this entry.....I know we're almost 11 years past this entry....but I found your blog somehow, and I've went back to read from the start because I'm weird like that...and this resonates with me. So much so that I had to comment. See 5 years ago, in 2010 my husband was dying, in the neurology intermediate ICU at a fabulous hospital with FABULOUS nurses and an equally wonderful brain doctor. Basically both of his vertebral arteries were occluded and he had brain swelling, a lot of brain swelling and his brain stem was basically gone. I'm sure I don't need to describe to you what his symptoms were. My point of this comment is that when I gave the final end of life decisions for him I included the biggest dose of morphine they could give him. Why? The man had had two micro brain surgeries in less then 36 hours and NO freaking pain med. The danged morphine was for me. But it was also for him. I knew from a previous surgery of his that if he was on morphine his breathing slowed. Like slowed down so much it was scary. And so, I asked that they give him morphine for when his vent tube was pulled. thank you for letting me know that the that choice I made for him was ok. Thank you for doing what you do.Mandyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08945972059647903942noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6833607.post-1135305945696991332005-12-22T18:45:00.000-08:002005-12-22T18:45:00.000-08:00I have watched patients suffer, silently begging t...I have watched patients suffer, silently begging them to die. I know it sounds horrible but it is the truth. What purpose will be served by having them gasping for the family to watch? I have bathed, turned, suctioned and medicated hoping to hasten the inevitable. It doesn't make me comfortable but neither does the suffering.Michellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09513163280409425866noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6833607.post-1132348157322923542005-11-18T13:09:00.000-08:002005-11-18T13:09:00.000-08:00i know exactly how you feel. i had a couple of exp...i know exactly how you feel. i had a couple of experiences of the same kind. ihad to ask the attending over and over, if he is sure i can give the morphine. the family members are almost begging for it. and for me, the minutes seemes forever. for sure, if i didn't give the morphine, they will still go, but why do i have to make that decision? IT IS HARD.<BR/><BR/>and condolences...mayhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09241471277723030930noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6833607.post-1132335650900704932005-11-18T09:40:00.000-08:002005-11-18T09:40:00.000-08:00Jodi, I edited out the part that you're commenting...Jodi, I edited out the part that you're commenting on because, after I wrote it, I got an email from Mom that said that my aunt had died this morning.<BR/><BR/>It no longer seemed appropriate, if it ever was in the first place.<BR/><BR/>Thanks for your thoughts, though. Very much.Johttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16520599099436383317noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6833607.post-1132334622945373722005-11-18T09:23:00.000-08:002005-11-18T09:23:00.000-08:00My thoughts are with you and your Aunt and family....My thoughts are with you and your Aunt and family.<BR/>I know from very personal expeirience how hard it is to let go, and how "one more day" could mean a lot to a family member.<BR/>You have to start questioning yourself and ask not when to die but how.<BR/>I hope for your Aunt, it is peaceful.<BR/>Take care,<BR/>JodiJohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02846742395561891234noreply@blogger.com