tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6833607.post3699696764604753610..comments2023-06-14T03:36:55.988-07:00Comments on Head Nurse: It is, really, all about blood.Johttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16520599099436383317noreply@blogger.comBlogger13125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6833607.post-4890254238138346362010-04-06T10:09:59.955-07:002010-04-06T10:09:59.955-07:00Sometimes, men get abused to by their wives too. U...Sometimes, men get abused to by their wives too. Unfortunately, daily verbal abuse is not illegal, it's impossible to prove in court. So divorce is the solution. <br />--anon0406Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6833607.post-53963339269888068652010-04-04T04:44:13.708-07:002010-04-04T04:44:13.708-07:00I was a victim before. Though he didn't hurt m...I was a victim before. Though he didn't hurt me physically, he abused me into believing that I was a useless, ugly no good for anything woman. It was hard to leave when he convinced me i was all that. It hurt so much i thought i could kill myself. Till this day nobody knew what really hurtful words and treatment he did to me.<br /><br />As he didn't leave any physical marks on me, my family members and friends couldn't believe this 'good' son of bitch ever hurt me. What woke me up when my sis told me if i wanted my son to grow up believing its ok to hurt others emotionally or physically. <br /><br />Please support her until something really wakes her out of her nightmare and gives her the courage and strength to stand up and walk out of the hell hole. I did and she will too.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6833607.post-59999337316069761902010-04-03T23:45:01.916-07:002010-04-03T23:45:01.916-07:00Okay, I know this is an old thread, but this story...Okay, I know this is an old thread, but this story stuck with me and I needed to check back. <br /><br />I didn't want to comment before because I didn't know how to say what I want to say without triggering a flame war, but ... Jo, if you want to walk away from this, WALK. <br /><br />You have ZERO responsibility to stick around and watch helplessly while someone else fucks up her life. <br /><br />I hear what some other commentators are saying, that it helped them to have friends who did stick around, BUT- a lot of people don't EVER leave abusive relationships. <br /><br />I really have a problem with the idea that "good friendship" involves being willing to watch someone destroy themselves. <br /><br />Cutting off contact with someone in an abusive relationship- whether the abuser is a person, drugs, gambling, whatever- is modeling having a boundary. <br /><br />It's saying "Hey, when you do this, it feels like shit to me and I don't like it. I asked you to stop and you won't. So go away. I don't want you around anymore." <br /><br />Jo's friend needs to learn how to put boundaries into practice. Jo refusing to stand by and watch is modeling those boundaries. <br /><br />Jo, you're a good friend.pelicanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00623610883701005178noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6833607.post-77804895041656501182010-04-03T06:42:42.002-07:002010-04-03T06:42:42.002-07:00I am really sorry to hear about your friend. Domes...I am really sorry to hear about your friend. Domestic violence is cruel to both parties in a marriage and made worse by the indifference of the cops and the judiciary. In India, cases pertaining to domestic violence are hushed up to safeguard family honor. I am sorry to see that in different parts of the world it continues to happen like this. Hope you have overcome the shock.Swapna Raghu Sanandhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10167474469892964199noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6833607.post-24570715465721697732010-04-02T19:18:48.886-07:002010-04-02T19:18:48.886-07:00I'll tell you why they go back, they do not kn...I'll tell you why they go back, they do not know how to get away. literally, they do not have the skills. Please don't give up on her - speaking from experience, having friends making you feel ashamed for not leaving makes you feel even more deserving of the abuse. That said, I'm so glad she knew she could go to you - I would want you in my corner too!<br />I echo above - great writing Nurse Inspiration Jo! love BiscuitxAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6833607.post-32179166384815630172010-04-01T19:52:32.108-07:002010-04-01T19:52:32.108-07:00so sorry. you were brave.so sorry. you were brave.woolywomanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14798060848062776281noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6833607.post-80815402446733600522010-04-01T18:47:03.319-07:002010-04-01T18:47:03.319-07:00My God. I don't know what to say, except that ...My God. I don't know what to say, except that it's a truly good thing she could count on you to help when the chips were really down. I've been struggling with a patient in the same situation. They go back to the abuser: I don't know why, but they do. Hopefully this will be the last time.Dr. Alicehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04776830530694403715noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6833607.post-48533046837322975742010-04-01T18:10:29.511-07:002010-04-01T18:10:29.511-07:00I'm sorry for your friend. Also, that was rea...I'm sorry for your friend. Also, that was really good writingHomemaker Manhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04184158557108064422noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6833607.post-16756233048572715702010-04-01T13:28:36.140-07:002010-04-01T13:28:36.140-07:00That's horrible for everyone involved. Hope yo...That's horrible for everyone involved. Hope your friend can eventually put this behind her and I hope the asshole who did this to her rots in hell.Mahahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04860979377398925052noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6833607.post-17718310168003708312010-04-01T09:41:36.150-07:002010-04-01T09:41:36.150-07:00All I can say, from being on the abused end of tha...All I can say, from being on the abused end of that type of relationship, is to listen and be there for her. It takes so much strength to finally leave -- for good - from an abusive relationship. Don't give up on her. Please.AtYourCervixhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08238926588944507794noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6833607.post-88910323156214620852010-04-01T08:08:34.229-07:002010-04-01T08:08:34.229-07:00I've always said that if a guy hits me, he bet...I've always said that if a guy hits me, he better make sure I'm unconcious because if I'm not I'm getting up to kill him. I know its not that simple, that by the time violence enters the picture a person (because it happens both ways) has been criticized and controlled into thinking they deserve it. <br />My cousin married a 'man' this summer who posseses, controls, criticizes and isolates her and I wait with fear for the day when the call comes that he's hit her. I tried to make her see things straight but she believed that without him she would have no one and being alone was scarier to her than being with someone that has the potential to turn violent. We haven't spoken since I told her I didn't believe in her marriage and as such wouldn't be able to be a part of the ceremony.<br />Best of luck to your friend as she enters what will hopefully, finally be a recovery period.Shannonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04226467831645851437noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6833607.post-1887558299403092522010-04-01T06:40:15.339-07:002010-04-01T06:40:15.339-07:00In a sense, it's too bad that we're thinki...In a sense, it's too bad that we're thinking humans. If we were wolves, we'd drive such antisocial individuals out of the pack or get together and tear him apart with our teeth and claws. Nobody in the pack ever hurts a female wolf.<br /><br />It's also a real shame that we've given up our individual responsibility to protect women, children, the infirm, the aged, etc and delegated it to law enforcement and the judicial system.<br /><br />When my son-in-law hurt my daughter, the black eye I gave him was a better learning experience than a meeting with disinterested police and a judge, followed by a trip through a boring anger management class. He'd been through that once already and it didn't stick.<br /><br />I'm not a bully. I'm a 52 year-old gray-haired, old fart who loves his daughter too much to allow a 35-year old strapping construction worker to hurt his kid. I actually expected to be decked, but hoped that it would buy her enough time to get out the door.<br /><br />I wish every woman (of any age) could pick up a cel phone and say, "Dad, please come now. He hurt me." At least it would level the field of combat.Just My 2ยขhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01870976662057532723noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6833607.post-29918333800017662010-04-01T06:28:44.918-07:002010-04-01T06:28:44.918-07:00I am so sorry you had to go through that. It is ha...I am so sorry you had to go through that. It is hard to see someone we care for make such bad decisions.AfterGirlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09190721515361373787noreply@blogger.com